It is all about attitude, Sparky!
After reading a zillion self-help books - that is the scale on which I need it! - I was pulled out of a growing quaigmire by two vistors to my blog. Aditi Shukla Fozdar and Trishna Mumbai. They are the ones who switched on the torch that pierced through the fog. It is about 'attitude', period.
I read about a famous conductor (the sort that prefers music to buses) who found peace by focussing on the 'contribution' he daily made to his family, workplace and himself, rather than whining about this and that.
'Fish Tales' has another prescription. It asks you to simply - and consciously - decide each morning what attitude you intend to have through the day.... a critic or a doer, a 'babu' or a contributor.. and so on.
I know all this is too simplistic and cannot cure all ills (lack of sex, for example!)... but worth a try, folks.
And thank you ASF and TM.